What my husband does right and my exes did wrong (Part 2)

Last night a South African guy asked me ‘Why did you marry your husband? Is it because he is white or because he’s from Europe?

Like those were my only two options.

I simply told him I was looking for a few things in a man

I didn’t want a normal church boy.
I wanted a guy that has searched out God and discovered God for himself. Someone that’s not afraid of going against what normal good-meaning church folk says.

I did a school of biblical studies.
I didn’t want someone who would quote the Bible back to me.

I wanted someone who has gone through life and has seen the reality.

Sometimes you pray and God doesn’t answer. What does that say about God? What does that say about you? Are we God because Jesus said in Psalm 82

‘Don’t you know that you are gods?’

Or are we simply human because God said in Isaiah 45:5

‘I am the Lord your God there is no one besides me.’

I wanted someone who was past that phase of being popular on social media. Who was not driven by likes and comments. Who realized that social media does not define his worth or mine.

But also realize that there’s much power in social media. I’m a blogger, and for the longest time, I got paid that way.
Someone that understood the line between social media and reality.

Yes, I look good in pictures. Anyone can take a picture of themselves on the day they look good.

But what about when I wake up in the morning with messy hair and stink breath?
What if I get pregnant and get fatter after the baby is born?
What if I wake up in the morning hating myself?

Would he still see the beauty in me and remind myself when I can’t remember who I am? Or was it all about my looks and my body?

I didn’t care about what the person would wear, but if he happens to wear expensive clothes, does that define him?

Does money, cars, iPhones define him? And if we couldn’t afford it anymore? Would he still have the confidence in knowing I love him just the same?

I was looking for a person I could build a life with. And those were questions I asked myself.

Who am I? Am I willing to love him the same and be that person for that man?

And of course, stuff like loyalty, staying when it’s easier to leave, etc.

So, those were the things I was looking for in a husband. And I held myself to that standard, can I be that type of woman?

Many people don’t know Marcel pursued me for 5months. And many days I didn’t respond.

People told him she is playing with your emotions, give up.

But he knew he wanted me and he never stopped pursuing me. Even after we started a relationship, the first time he kissed me was after he asked me to marry me.

He showed me there is more to me than the body and physical beauty. Our conversations lasted for hours and our laughter for days.

So, when he asked to marry me, I said yes. Not because he is white or Europen.

His blue eyes, dark blond hair and Dutch language are mind-blowingly- orgasmic fricken awesome, but there’s so much more to my husband than I could ever tell on any social media or to anyone.

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If you missed part one, click here

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Instagram needs normal pictures too

Just a normal picture of me. Like many other pictures I have of myself, that gets lost on my camera roll. Never to be seen again.

But I like this picture.

Why?

I don’t know.

I think cause it’s a normal picture of me. I don’t expect any compliments. I know there’s no Instagram filter. No crazy makeup.  Just a moment freezed in a busy lifetime.

Instagram needs normal pictures too.

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Beginner bloggers: 2 ways to make money

In the past week, some of you have asked me about mainly two things: What my thoughts were on Affiliate links (can you make real money with it) and what my thoughts were on Ko-fi (a link where your readers can buy you a ‘coffee’/donate $3.)

In this post I will tell you of 2 ways I know makes real money.

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Back in 2014 and 2015, I use to add affiliate links to my blog.

After that year, I stopped with most affiliate links because I did not see growth. If something doesn’t work after a considerable amount of time, and I’ve done my best, I simply move on to the next.

Now in 2017 I only do affiliate links that work for me and might work for you too, because there is logic in the method.

Tips on selecting affiliate links:
1. Go the website that you shop at the most, most companies have affiliate programs on their website. Sign up.

Why use a store that you shop at? Because if you are the average person, you don’t buy overly expensive things on a daily basis.

Most affiliate links that people put up, is overly expensive and so people don’t click on the link because they can’t afford it.
And if they do go to the website, mostly they don’t buy anything which influences your sales.

2. If you are thinking about selling a specific item, choose items that cost less then what people pay for currently in other stores.

Example: I found a company that sells human hair for extremely cheap. First, I bought the hair to see if it’s good quality. Once I saw it was, I contacted the company, told them I have a blog and would like to advertise their hair on my blog with an affiliate link.

I had the hair on my blog for a while but took it off once my blog content changed more to fashion rather than beauty.

(I’m getting back into beauty soon, so I might contact a few companies again.)

3. What’s your demographics? Which country visits your blog the most? Check your stats. Once you know, you can choose affiliate links catering specifically to those people. Get affiliate links from stores in those countries.

4. What do you post about? Fashion? Parenthood? Writing? It’s important to know this because the people who follow you are attracted to that topic. Choose an affiliate link that sells something related to that topic.

If you blog about being vegan, but your affiliate links are for meat products, you won’t make any sales.

Some readers asked about Ko-Fi
Let me first explain what Ko-Fi is.

It’s a platform where creators can set up a free account and link back to their website for readers to buy you a ‘coffee’.

It’s not an actual coffee but rather a donation of $3 (the average price of a coffee ) or more (if they want to give more) In this way, your readers can support you.

How do they pay and how do you receive it?
They choose an option to pay via their bank card or PayPal and you put your bank details or PayPal into your account.

Ko-Fi will let you know when you’ve received the money and it will be available to you immediately. No threshold.

I set up my Ko-Fi account last week and have received some caffeine from some of you, THANK YOU. It’s an incredible feeling to receive a notification that someone actually clicked on the button, and decided to support my blog in that way.

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Screenshot of how it looks when you receive a ‘coffee’

 

If my posts have helped you consider buying me a ‘coffee’ click here.

Questions to the readers:
Do you use affiliate links? What’s the most difficult part for you when you think about affiliate links?

If you want to read more posts like these, I made a whole series of beginner blogger tips. Click here.

See you in the comments, happy living!

Chantal

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Meet the blogger Minakshi Dewangan

Today we are meeting a lovely new blogger. If you would like your blog to be featured click here. Don’t forget to include your blog website because otherwise I can’t link to it!

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Meet Minakshi Dewangan

  • What’s your blog about?
      -My blog is about fashion and lifestyle related stuff. I love doing fashion and makeup and hair and everything but I wanted to do in a way that people can adapt easily in their life.😊
 
  • Would you consider yourself a…- I am a beginner blogger of course. As I am still learning and working on everything.
 
  • What’s your vision for your blog?
        To connect, to reach and to grow           more as a Blogger with whom people can relate easily. ☺
 
  • If your wildest fantasy came true regarding your blog, what would it be?
To get maximum number of beautiful followers as my blogging family who found my blog interesting so that it will push me More to serve them better.
 
  •  What are your worst fears about blogging?
 That people will not get bored and uninterested towards me and my blog.
 
  • Wild Cards!
1. If you didn’t have to sleep then what would you do with the extra time?
I will explore the world beyond my shell and write about them.
2. What is the most annoying habit that other people have?
All people in this world are one of a kind so it’s difficult to say which habit to put in annoying category but sometimes i do get irritated when people shouts to prove themselves right.
 
3. What skill would you most like to master?
I love Dancing and I wanted to learn more and more about it.

Meet the blogger Daisy Chain

This is a section of my blog that I introduce new bloggers out there. If you would like to join in the fun please check out the details here and email me beginnerbloggertips@gmail.com.
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 MEET DAISY CHAIN
Hi! I’m DaisyChain and I’m a beauty/lifestyle blogger! I’d love for you to visit my blog and see if you like it. It would mean so much 😊
1. What is your blog about?
My blog is a beauty and lifestyle blog. I love makeup and fashion alot so that’s why I wrote about it 😄
2. What type of blogger are you?
 I’m a beginner blogger but I am quite proud of my blog.
3. What’s your vision for your blog?
My vision is a place where I can share my ideas and people read and like them. I’d love to have a following who appreciate my blog and love to read my posts!
4. If your wildest fantasy came true regarding your blog, what would it be?
My wildest fantasy would be to have a following of 1,000 people by my birthday  (June) or my long term dream would be to get a comment saying: “You are amazing! I love your blog so much 😄” that would just be amazing.
5. What are your worst fears about blogging?
They are that no one enjoys reading my posts and that my blog is considered boring.
Wild Cards!
1. If you didn’t have to sleep then what would you do with the extra time?
I would write more posts and spend more time with my family
2. What is the most annoying habit that other people have?
I don’t really find things other people do annoying cos you know it’s there life, they can do what they want but I cannot stand it when people click their pens. It is so annoying.
3. What skill would you most like to master?
I would love to master the skill of photography. I’m not that good at taking photos so I’d really love to be able to take good photos.

How to get sponsored blog posts (free media kit template )

If you are a beginner blogger, you probably don’t get many emails, if any at all, asking you to promote content. So in today’s post, I will tell you how to get sponsored blog posts. as a beginner blogger. I’ve also included free media kit templates.

Now that you know how to maintain your blog, the next step is getting a sponsored blog posts as a beginner blogger.

It takes preparation.

First, you’ll need something that is known as a media kit. What is a media kit? It’s a summary of your blog, mission, goals, and statistics.

  • A media kit includes:
    An introduction to yourself and a picture: This can be brief. Tell the company who you are and add a professional picture.
  • Your mission/goals for your blog: What do you want to achieve with your blog? What do you blog about? What is your niche? Is there any particular post that you do weekly to draw your audience to your blog?
  • Your audience: Who are they? How old are they? Male/ female? From where are they? You can obtain this information from WordPress stats or Google analytics.
  • Testimonials ( See this post on how to get testimonials)
  • Blog post rates (See this post on how to charge for blog posts)
  • Your statistics: What are your WordPress stats? What’s your unique visitors per month, page views per month, email list? This information you’ll find on your WordPress stats or Google analytics.
    What’s the analytics for your social media such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc?
  • NOTE: If you fear that your stats are a bit low on one of your accounts then don’t mention it. A media kit is a cv of your blog and you want to showcase your best self.
  • Contact info: Include your name, number, blog address, email and social media.

As a beginner blogger all of these points should be fairly easy to summarize, the only two that may discourage you is your statistics and testimonials.

If you are just starting out, your numbers will not be so impressive. Everyone starts from somewhere. Do not let this discourage you. Instead, you can show how fast your blog is growing, by including “I’ve had this blog for 3 months and my subscription has grown 400%  each moth.’ This shows that your blog has potential.

I have created a professional media kit template for you. You can change the colour. Download it and add your information to it.

Pink Blogger Media Kit

Download the pdf here. Pink Blogger Media Kit

Download word doc here.MEDIA KIT TEMP

Congrats, you have your media kit.

Now that you have completed your media kit, the fun begins.

There are magical places where bloggers and advertisers live happily ever after. It is called blogger affiliate programs.

You sign up to one of the services for free and upload your media kit.

These companies will ask you to select what type of brands you are interested in working with, what type of products you would like to review, how much you charge per blog post, etc.

Once you’ve created your profile, companies browse it and will let you know when they are interested.

In 2014 I was part of a blogger’s group from the UK and received my first sponsored post after a month. I waited until companies contacted me, but you can browse prospective companies you are interested in and send your media kit to them.

Here are some companies you can sign up to:

IZEA

TAPINFLUENCE

Comission Junction

Let me know how it goes!

PS: Do you find the beginner blogger tips helpful? If so, consider buying me a ‘coffee’ 🙂 All the money goes to creating content for the blog. Confused? Click here.

For more beginner blogger posts, click here.

Until tomorrow, happy living!
Chantal

MEET THE BLOGGER CLAIRE PFEFFER

Two weeks ago I announced that I will be introducing a new blogger on my blog twice a week since many people I’ve came in contact with said they did not have a lot of WordPress friends.

Why not share the love you give on my blog with her blog?  A like,comment and follow will bring many smiles 😀 Remember how you felt when someone did it to you? No? Then you should probably read this post if you want to promote your blog on my blog for free. 🙂

And a big thank you to Mr. Militant Negro who offered to then re-blog your post on his blog to even more viewers!

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Meet Claire Pfeffer 

What’s your blog about?

My blog is about my life as an undergrad student. I also post studying tips, life tips, organizational strategies, and my beauty tips.

What  type of blogger would you consider yourself? 

A blogger who  tries to blog but life gets in the way.

What is your vision for your blog?

I want my blog to be a way to get my thoughts out but also to share what I’ve learned so far and my experiences.

If your wildest fantasy came true regarding your blog, what would it be?

My blog would be somewhere that I can share what I’ve learned and have others contribute as well. Being a millennial, a college student, and super girly all offer a unique perspective that I want to be able to share. I want to interact with my readers as well. 

What is your worst fear about blogging?

That no one reads my blog- or worse, they read it and hate it.

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What is the most annoying habit that other people have?

Being late. I hate when people are late because it’s so rude and inconsiderate. 

What skill would you like to master?

I would like to become fluent in sign language. 

If you want to get to know her more, please follow her here.