Our Son is born! Meet Edmund de Geus

It’s been a month since our son was born! I kept putting writing this post off because I wanted to write a coherent post. I mean it’s our firstborn, such a profound time in our lives!

Like most new parents I soon realized the time between diaper change, feeding, changing clothes, putting to bed and pumping is an ongoing cycle. The time for the perfect written post will come the day he is 18.

So, WordPress family, meet our son, Edmund de Geus. He is our pride and joy. He takes our sleep but repays it in beautiful smiles. Yesterday he was one month old.


Somewhere at 3:00 am, after we put Edmund down to sleep, my husband was smiling. I asked him why. He replied: I’ve never been this tired but this happy.

And that sums it up for both of us:
We are happily exhausted.

Ps: I hear yawns coming from the co-sleeper. It’s almost time for Edmund to wake up for his 6:00 am feeding!

Expect more randomly timed posts from this new mommy. 😀

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Can materialistic things inspire profound realizations?

The ability to get to know myself more over the years is powerful and
I’m grateful.

I’ve written many times about the idea that ”It’s the little things in life.”

Still, I’m realizing it in even more profound ways. I wish to grow in this knowledge even more over the years.

Today, I have a clothing haul from H&M.
Yes, it’s clothes.
Yes, it’s materialistic.

And yet these clothes have inspired such a joy in my life. I’ve learned more about myself.
Somethings I’ve known and some I’ve realized.

Like the fact that I feel incredibly good around natural things such as trees, nature, stones, crystals, etc.

If you have been following me for a while, you might know that I’m often surrounded by nature. I may not live in nature, but I insert myself into nature at least 4 times a week.

I should’ve known earlier, and yet it took buying these clothes, coming home and reflecting on my purchase to realize it.

It all started with me, coming home, just staring at the clothes. Looking at the clothes felt great, dressing in the clothes felt incredibly good. What was this feeling?

Well…
As I reflect on my purchase, I admit the colors were a bit odd.
I would not normally choose brown and beige colors, but the fabric felt so good in my hands (especially the blazer) and the brown bag reminded me of earth;dirt.
Why would I want to wear that? And why is it making me feel so good?

I’ve come to the conclusion that my love for natural colors has transitioned into my wardrobe. And I couldn’t be happier.

Can materialistic things inspire profound realizations?

You tell me,

Here’s what I got at H&M.

(PS: I’m 7months pregnant! 😀 )

Beige blazer

Linen mix fabric

White shirt (sold out)


Animal print shorts (sold out) … But there’s many more other choices.

Viscose fabric


Pink nude shoes: (Sold out)


Brown bag: (Sold out)

See you around the blogosphere!

Chantal xx

Dropshipped dresses- Is it Aliexpress quality?

When dropship-clothes.com reached out to me to do a collaboration for their dropship dresses, I honestly expected it to be cheap clothes. Like the clothes that I buy on Aliexpress most of the time.

They’ve asked me to pick any three items on their website for free in exchange for an honest review.

* I wasn’t sure if the sizing would be accurate so I ordered one size up for all my clothes. Normally I’m a large but I’ve ordered XL in all the items.

Here’s what I’ve picked:

A Pink dawn dress $10.12 :

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A pink party glitter dress: $15.53 :

LRM_EXPORT_510334645860512_20190311_195446344LRM_EXPORT_510380189162283_20190311_195531887 To me the dress looks prettier in person then on the website. When the dress arrived I told my husband that I would actually wear this to a formal event (prom) or if I’d known sooner about this place, let my bridesmaids wear it at our wedding. The glitter detail is beautiful and the dress is lined. One thing I disliked about the dress is that the ties at the back of the dress are way too long, but I’d just cut it off. I give this dress 3 out of 4 stars.

A fur trim parka $37.94:

P1260851.jpgI was most excited to receive the parka because a few weeks ago my husband was going to get a very similar jacket at HNM on sale for $50. So, when I saw this jacket for $37.94 I was suspicious. However, the quality blew my mind. The jacket is heavy, the fur can be removed, it is WARM and comfortable. It was too big for me but Marcel posed for a picture. If I have to recommend any of the three items I would recommend this jacket. I give the jacket 4 out of 4 stars.

I will make a video sometime where I show the quality of the clothes if you are interested. Let me know.

I can only speak on the three items that I chose, and I liked it. I haven’t tried out any other clothes on the website. If you’d like me to do another collaboration with this website let me know. Is there anything you are interested in?

Here’s a link to their sales page:

See you around,
Chantal ❤

Beginner blogger tips: How I got 1000followers in 3months as a new blogger

From last week’s post on my series ‘Beginner blogger tips’ I gathered that there are two type of questions that you want to know; ‘I’m a new blogger how do I get people to come to my blog’ and ‘I’ve been blogging a while but how do I find the confidence in sharing my content with my friends and family?’

It’s two big questions, with a lot of tips I’ve learned over the years.

So, today instead of posting my initial post, which was ‘How to improve your blog content’ I’m posting what you actually asked for. (I’ll upload the other blog post on Friday)

But it’s a lot of information so  I’ll split it up in two sections. The question  ‘I’m a new blogger how do I get people to come to my blog’ will be this post.

And the question ‘I’ve been blogging a while but how do I find the confidence in sharing my content with my friends and family? Will be uploaded on Tuesday.

So, let’s get in to it.

I’m a new blogger how do I get people to come to my blog?

When I began blogging I really didn’t know that you can promote your content, or that it’s even important to do so. After a while, I saw that some blogs received more likes, comments and followers than my blog and I thought to myself ‘It’s probably because that other blog have been around for a while, I have to wait my chance.’

But 3 months later, I reached my first 1000 subscribers. As a three month old blogger at that time, I was very new to WordPress.

As a new blogger, to reach a thousand subscribers, in 3 months, should have been ‘impossible’ , but it happened to me. Thinking back about it now, I know how it happened.

Forget that you are a beginner blogger and have to wait your turn. It’s not about being new, this isn’t primary school where you have to go through the grades.  You can grow your blog, fast or slow, this depends mostly on yourself.

So if you are new, try this. This is what I’ve done.

  • Put aside 1hour of your day, if that’s too much,  take the amount of time you can afford. For me it was 1hour.

 

  • Go on top of the WordPress bar and select the ‘Reader button’reader full
  • Then click on searchsave as search crop

 

  • Search the topics that you are interested in. Here I’m using ‘horses’.horses crophorses fullNow a list will appear with all the blogs that have that content.
  • Go through them, and find the ones you genuinely like. How do you know if you genuinely like a blog? Did you read their complete post and liked it? Can you comment something meaningful? Were you tempted to read another post from their blog? If yes, you genuinely like the blog.

 

  • Now go ahead, subscribe, like and comment on the post.

 

  • Do this for all the blogs you genuinely like. Sometimes it’s only 1 blog, sometimes it’s 5 blogs. Just don’t go on a spree of following blogs left to right, because people often know that you are doing that, and then will not follow you back because you have nothing in common and don’t add value to their blog.  It’s about keeping up to date with the blogs you follow. You don’t always have to like and comment on their every post, but reading it is important. Because when you meet them on the blog-sphere again, you will have something to ‘speak’ about. You know what’s on their blog and they will appreciate it. Sounds overwhelming right? But if you genuinely like a blog, then it’s really not.

Secondly tag your blog post correctly.

Say you are writing a blog post about fashion, then the popular terms for fashion blog post are ‘ootd (outfit of the day) , fashion, fashion bloggers, skirt, dress etc’

How do you know the best tag for your blog post?

Find someone that does well on WordPress and blogs about what you blog about, go to the bottom of their page and see what they have tagged. Then use the tags they used, but of course it needs to correspond with what you wrote about.

Some other tips about tagging: Look at what you wrote about in your post. If you wrote about techniques of horse riding , then you will likely have your horse in the picture. And some tools. So your tags can be ‘horse riding, techniques, tool, how to’…. but then also tag ‘animals, love, friendship’ Even though you might not have written about love , animals and friendship’  that is also what your post can reflect to other people. So people who are interested in those things will discover your blog and follow because you are writing about something that they like.

The first picture on your blog or the featured image

I’ve learned this very quickly in the first 3 months of blogging; people will click on your blog because your picture took their interest.

If you do not use ‘feature image’ to put a feature image on your blog, then WordPress will use the first picture in your blog post to use as a feature image when people search for a certain topic that you have tagged. That’s a mouth full. Let’s cut it into pieces.

What is feature image?

It’s the image that you want to put on top of your blog post, almost like a header.

How do you use it?

Very easy just click on it, it will ask you to upload the your picture, and voila! 🙂

Where do you find it?

On the right hand side of your blog.feature

So, good ideas for pictures that I’ve seen work for me was clear pictures. Kind of cropped so that people can see me, at the first glance. When people search for topics, your picture is rather small, so let it stand out.

Still don’t get it? I’ll use some examples of my own posts.

For my blond wig review, and my grey wig review, I used these pictures as my first pictures.

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For my ootd post I used these pictures. You still want to stand out, but also show your entire outfit. Again, try to use clear pictures with not too much distraction in the background.

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Here the background is green and the clothes are in contrast to the background

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Shirt: Gift Leggings: Mr Price Leather jacket: Woolworths Shoes: Mr price

Since I’m a personal blogger, often times my pictures are about me. But you don’t have to use pictures of yourself. These tips you can apply to any type of picture.

Still stuck? Tell me in the comments down below with what type of pictures you deal with. And I’ll check it out and help you. Free of course.

Your title

Think of your title and picture as twins. They give the same message.

If your title is ‘my outfit of the day’ then don’t use a picture of a house. Use your best picture with that outfit. Rock it. Put your best foot forward. Grab attention. You can do it.

Titles are as important as a picture. Make sure they don’t get lost in the wordpress search. Write something that will spark curiosity.

Promote your blog on other blogs.

How do you do that? You can promote your blog here free on my blog. I did a post about it here. Or search for someone who does the same.

There is so much on this topic and I fear this post is getting to long, so if you want me to make a part 2 of this blog post, going even more in detail on the subjects mentioned here, then comment down below.

Did this post help you? Or do you have more questions? Would you like video on this content? (For those of you who do not like to read)

Until tomorrow,

Happy living!

Chantal x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The healing power of nature

It started with a craving for grass under my bare feet.

THE HEALING POWER OF NATURE

To leave behind the walls, chairs and computers for a while.

I blog and work on ideas for my blog from Monday to Friday 7:30am-17:00pm

I enjoy it, but sometimes I just need nature to enjoy me.

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So, 3 times a week, if not more, my husband and myself go to the park and feel the grass under our bare feet, look at the birds and the bees doing their thing, and whatever nature has in store for us.

Friday afternoon, I witness the most beautiful thing.

I told Marcel let’s not take our normal route in the park. let’s take another way. He smiled and said ‘yeah, I was thinking the same thing.’

We ended up walking a longer way, but it was worth it.

We saw a bird’s nest on water.

Of course, we were amazed by it. But never thought to sit down there. It was windy and the wind blew the water fountain to our side. We would get wet.

After 30minutes I realized we had sat down under the tree still amazed at the bird and the nest. The wind was blowing and the water never touched us.

But that was not the beautiful thing.

The beautiful thing was the the birds. The ‘mother’ bird was sitting on her nest which was build on water and soon we saw the ‘father’ bird bringing her bits of food and grass to put underneath her.

He would swim the entire lake, and find the best bits and parts of the grass.

I wondered about that, why would he not get grass closer then the wide open lake? Then he wouldn’t have to work that hard.

Later on I noticed that he tried it, but when he gave it to her, she refused to take it. A fussy little lady she is. She only accepts the best and he knew it 🙂

So back he would go, and swim the lake to return 5 min later with an offering to his ‘bride’

Meanwhile, on the other side, there was another bird, a little bit fatter. He came right up to us, as in to ask  ‘Are you not going to share your food with me?’

Amazed at this bird’s confidence, we gave him some of our food.

And he came closer and closer to us. Like a domestic pet.

I wondered, uhmm what would I have done if I was a bird. Would I search the entire lake for food, or just walk up to the human and ask for food?

This bird was braver in my opinion, and surely fatter. While the other bird was working very hard for only little bits of food here and there.

But I was proven wrong. It terms of braveness.

When Marcel got to close to the nest of the ‘mother’, the ‘father’ came on a high speed all the way across from the river to protect his wife and unborn children from this ‘intruder’ (Marcel)

He came fast and furious, flapping his wings. The ‘fatter’ bird ran away. And surely Marcel and myself stood back.

This little bird, taught me so much.

We saw other animals on our way walking to the park. But the birds took the spotlight.

What type of bird are you? The one take takes food or the one working for his own food? And are you respected by others for it? More importantly do you respect yourself?

PS: WE GOT TO SEE ONE EGG HATCH. *Yes, We went crazy with joy*

I made this video of the bird here.  Click on it 🙂

 

 

 

How to deal with depression in a busy life

As someone with bipolar, I know depression well. I started trying different things four years ago, and these seem to help me. I hope it helps you. I tried to keep it short and to the point. I know life is busy! 🙂

  • Do not forget to eat, even if you do not have appetite. Depression makes some people loose their appetite and causes others to over eat.
  • Do some exercise.
  • Prevent staying in bed even though it is tempting
  • Your brain is wired to think negatively, change your focus onto something more positive
  • Drink water
  • Make sure you take rest. Don’t over work.
  • Take periods of time just to rest and don’t feel guilty about it.
  • Take your medication as prescribed
  • Don’t stop taking your medication when you start to feel better.

    Depression influence everyone differently, use these tips as guidelines because you know yourself better than anyone.

  • Your problem has been solved. You just haven't arrived in that point in time yet.