It was my husband’s birthday yesterday.
I didn’t wish him on Facebook. That was a shock to a few people.
‘Çhantal, why didn’t you wish Marcel on Facebook?”
It seems a little odd to me to wish my husband, with whom I share a house with, and to whom I wished in person, to congratulate him on Facebook. (We were too busy enjoying time together on his birthday)
My husband has Facebook, but he doesn’t go on it often. He checks maybe twice a month his Facebook, if at all.
So, why would I wish him a Happy birthday on Facebook?
The answer I got to was this:
1) To show off my love for my husband to the world.
2) To wish ‘him’ but actually, show people on Facebook.
3) Perhaps, since we live far from our family it’s nice for friends and family to see us and keep up to date with our life on Facebook.
Fingers crossed it’s the latter.
For the past 3 years, I’ve felt the burden to wish my loved ones a happy birthday on Facebook, even though I wished them in real life or telephoned them. Have you felt like that?
This year, I decided to not wish anyone a happy birthday on Facebook. If I’m far away, expect a call, or a message, but not a Facebook post. If I’m present I’ll wish you in person.
On my birthday, it’s nice to receive Facebook posts, so I understand that want of a Facebook post, but I do appreciate a phone call/ TEXT more. (Since I’m far away from friends and family)
But I won’t feel offended if you don’t wish me on Facebook.
What has happened? We are now in a generation were people keep grudges if you don’t wish them on facebook. ”I don’t wish you, because you didn’t wish me” What’s the point of the wish then anyway?
The only reason most people remember your birthday is that Facebook reminds them.
The birthdays of the following people are engraved in my head :
My parents & Parents-in-law
Two best friends Raeesa and Yentl
Some other friends and family
They receive a phone call or a visit on their birthday. because I truly appreciate them.
For our other family members, it’s marked down on our calendar.
Facebook is a reminder of people’s birthday’s I have no intention of remembering, and just wish them a ”Happy birthday” wall post (If on that day I’m on Facebook.)
If you happen to miss my birthday, it’s on 11 September, hard to forget since the twin towers and everything, but don’t worry I don’t hold a grudge! 🙂
What’re your thoughts on birthday posts?