Do you hold a grudge if someone doesn’t wish you on Facebook?

It was my husband’s birthday yesterday.

I didn’t wish him on Facebook. That was a shock to a few people.

‘Çhantal, why didn’t you wish Marcel on Facebook?”

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It seems a little odd to me to wish my husband, with whom I share a house with, and to whom I wished in person, to congratulate him on Facebook. (We were too busy enjoying time together on his birthday)

My husband has Facebook, but he doesn’t go on it often. He checks maybe twice a month his Facebook, if at all.

So, why would I wish him a Happy birthday on Facebook?

The answer I got to was this:
1) To show off my love for my husband to the world.
2) To wish ‘him’ but actually, show people on Facebook.
3) Perhaps, since we live far from our family it’s nice for friends and family to see us and keep up to date with our life on Facebook.

Fingers crossed it’s the latter.

For the past 3 years, I’ve felt the burden to wish my loved ones a happy birthday on Facebook, even though I wished them in real life or telephoned them. Have you felt like that?

This year, I decided to not wish anyone a happy birthday on Facebook. If I’m far away, expect a call, or a message, but not a Facebook post. If I’m present I’ll wish you in person.

On my birthday, it’s nice to receive Facebook posts, so I understand that want of a Facebook post, but I do appreciate a phone call/ TEXT more. (Since I’m far away from friends and family)

But I won’t feel offended if you don’t wish me on Facebook.

What has happened? We are now in a generation were people keep grudges if you don’t wish them on facebook. ”I don’t wish you, because you didn’t wish me” What’s the point of the wish then anyway?

The only reason most people remember your birthday is that Facebook reminds them.

The birthdays of the following people are engraved in my head :
My parents & Parents-in-law
Brother, sister
Two best friends Raeesa and Yentl
Some other friends and family
They receive a phone call or a visit on their birthday. because I truly appreciate them.

For our other family members, it’s marked down on our calendar.

Facebook is a reminder of people’s birthday’s I have no intention of remembering, and just wish them a ”Happy birthday” wall post (If on that day I’m on Facebook.)

If you happen to miss my birthday, it’s on 11 September, hard to forget since the twin towers and everything, but don’t worry I don’t hold a grudge! 🙂

What’re your thoughts on birthday posts?

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So, I filmed my hair

My friends describe my hair as shiny/ healthy/ grows fast

However, my hair is quite damaged.

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I thought I film the process of blowdrying me hair and show exactly how i get my hair to look natuarally ”shiny/ healthy/ grows fast”

I’m due for a hair trim next month, so if you want to see how my split ends look… here’s the video!

How $7 clothes look (review)

Hey Lovers!

When you think about 7$ clothes, companies such as Aliexpress and Romwe comes to mind. SOmething cheap that won’t last long.

But I’ve found a store that sells QUALITY clothes for 7$.

How is that possible?

Well, Everything 5 pounds is a UK online store that sells old stock from brands. You’ll be suprised to see what brands they have in stock. I’ve heard of H&m, Asos and Primark, but there are many more others.

I’ll do a side by side of how the clothes look on the website and what I’ve received.

Let’s go!

Dusty Pink high waisted skirt:

I’m really satisfied with this skirt. The fabric is good quality. I’m a size 10-12 and this is a size 10 skirt.

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Black hight waisted skirt:

I liked it so much I got it in black too. Great quality.

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Black jacket: 

The jacket fits perfectly. It’s true to size. I love this jacket because I can just throw it over an outfit and look like I’ve put some effort into it. Decent quality.

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Denim jacket:

This is my favourite piece from the haul. it is EXCELLENT quality. 70% cotton!

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Dusty pink shoes:

I was expecting the fabric to be more sturdy then the picture. However, it’s a soft faux leather. It still walks nice.

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I am very satisfied with this haul. I cannot believe for 7$ you get such great quality. I got 6 items for 26euro. Wow!

If you want to hear my thoughts in detail about the clothes or see me fit on the clothes, here’s a video 🙂

See you around the socials!

Chantal xx

Try on haul

Hey lovers!

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This is a quick post to let you know that I’ve posted a video. I will make a longer post later, but I’m on the train now. Please go check it out, I look foward to coming back to your replies tonight.

Here’s the video:

See you soon,

Chantal! xx

Casual spring #ootd

Just casually deciding to go for a walk at 22:00 at night because the sun is still out here in The Netherlands.

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I’ve been here almost 3 years and I’m still not use to the light late nights. I’m so grateful 😍

The husband said ‘Lets go for a walk’

I was a bit tired but happy we went. Along the way there was a house, that’s hosting a party and the music played loud.

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It gave the oppertunity for the hubby and myself to dance like no one is watching (no one was) in the middle of a pathway surrounded by wild flowers🍀

Clothing details:

A light fabric blazer is a staple in my wardrobe for spring because it elevates any outfit by just putting it on. It also serves as warmth for the late night breeze. I bought this 2 years ago and can’t link it because it’s sold out.

The dress I made myself. I find a shift dress to fit my body the best. I’m a UK size 12.

The shoes are from e5p.

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I hope you had a lovely day!

 

 

What my husband does right and my exes did wrong (Part 2)

Last night a South African guy asked me ‘Why did you marry your husband? Is it because he is white or because he’s from Europe?

Like those were my only two options.

I simply told him I was looking for a few things in a man

I didn’t want a normal church boy.
I wanted a guy that has searched out God and discovered God for himself. Someone that’s not afraid of going against what normal good-meaning church folk says.

I did a school of biblical studies.
I didn’t want someone who would quote the Bible back to me.

I wanted someone who has gone through life and has seen the reality.

Sometimes you pray and God doesn’t answer. What does that say about God? What does that say about you? Are we God because Jesus said in Psalm 82

‘Don’t you know that you are gods?’

Or are we simply human because God said in Isaiah 45:5

‘I am the Lord your God there is no one besides me.’

I wanted someone who was past that phase of being popular on social media. Who was not driven by likes and comments. Who realized that social media does not define his worth or mine.

But also realize that there’s much power in social media. I’m a blogger, and for the longest time, I got paid that way.
Someone that understood the line between social media and reality.

Yes, I look good in pictures. Anyone can take a picture of themselves on the day they look good.

But what about when I wake up in the morning with messy hair and stink breath?
What if I get pregnant and get fatter after the baby is born?
What if I wake up in the morning hating myself?

Would he still see the beauty in me and remind myself when I can’t remember who I am? Or was it all about my looks and my body?

I didn’t care about what the person would wear, but if he happens to wear expensive clothes, does that define him?

Does money, cars, iPhones define him? And if we couldn’t afford it anymore? Would he still have the confidence in knowing I love him just the same?

I was looking for a person I could build a life with. And those were questions I asked myself.

Who am I? Am I willing to love him the same and be that person for that man?

And of course, stuff like loyalty, staying when it’s easier to leave, etc.

So, those were the things I was looking for in a husband. And I held myself to that standard, can I be that type of woman?

Many people don’t know Marcel pursued me for 5months. And many days I didn’t respond.

People told him she is playing with your emotions, give up.

But he knew he wanted me and he never stopped pursuing me. Even after we started a relationship, the first time he kissed me was after he asked me to marry me.

He showed me there is more to me than the body and physical beauty. Our conversations lasted for hours and our laughter for days.

So, when he asked to marry me, I said yes. Not because he is white or Europen.

His blue eyes, dark blond hair and Dutch language are mind-blowingly- orgasmic fricken awesome, but there’s so much more to my husband than I could ever tell on any social media or to anyone.

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If you missed part one, click here

Instagram model pants #ootd #haul

Do fashion gods exist? Cause someone is helping me out.

I saw these pants on Instagram.

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How lovely is it? I thought to myself ‘this must be really expensive/ hard to get’.

I took a screenshot (like I do with so many outfits) and looked at it many times a day. I knew in my heart I was not going to get it since I’m in South Africa. But still, it was nice to look at.

Three days later, I walk past a store, I turned my head and there it was- the exact same dusty pink pants.

I was in complete shock. I went into the store, straight to the pants.
Was it my size? Yes.
Was it my prize? …YES
It was $16,75

And that’s how you come to see me wear these ‘Instagram model pants’

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It’s supposed to be winter in South Africa. I’m still here for a month and a few days. A coat would be nice, but what color? As usual, I saw a Burgundy coat on Pinterest, that I fell in love with.
I took a screenshot, kept staring at it on my phone.

And sure enough, at the same store, I saw the exact coat. They had my size and it was $23,92

Here is how it looks:

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MY REVIEW: Since the clothes are cheaper, of course, it is not made out of the same quality fabric that I saw some models on Instagram are wearing.

However, the quality of the pants and the coat are very good.

The pants are made out of 65% cotton and 35%polyester.
The brand is: Mirasol style

The coat is made out of faux suede.
The brand name: New feeling

I bought these clothes a store called ‘Gaap’. They do not have an online store.

However, I went online to search for it.

-If you are South African, click here for the pants. R280 I’ve bought at Poshclothing before and it’s quality stuff.

-UK, click here From Missguided 45pounds

-US, ( I couldn’t find any for the US, perhaps if you find a pair, let me know so I can update the post)

Happy living!