Casual spring #ootd

Just casually deciding to go for a walk at 22:00 at night because the sun is still out here in The Netherlands.

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I’ve been here almost 3 years and I’m still not use to the light late nights. I’m so grateful 😍

The husband said ‘Lets go for a walk’

I was a bit tired but happy we went. Along the way there was a house, that’s hosting a party and the music played loud.

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It gave the oppertunity for the hubby and myself to dance like no one is watching (no one was) in the middle of a pathway surrounded by wild flowers🍀

Clothing details:

A light fabric blazer is a staple in my wardrobe for spring because it elevates any outfit by just putting it on. It also serves as warmth for the late night breeze. I bought this 2 years ago and can’t link it because it’s sold out.

The dress I made myself. I find a shift dress to fit my body the best. I’m a UK size 12.

The shoes are from e5p.

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I hope you had a lovely day!

 

 

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What my husband does right and my exes did wrong (Part 2)

Last night a South African guy asked me ‘Why did you marry your husband? Is it because he is white or because he’s from Europe?

Like those were my only two options.

I simply told him I was looking for a few things in a man

I didn’t want a normal church boy.
I wanted a guy that has searched out God and discovered God for himself. Someone that’s not afraid of going against what normal good-meaning church folk says.

I did a school of biblical studies.
I didn’t want someone who would quote the Bible back to me.

I wanted someone who has gone through life and has seen the reality.

Sometimes you pray and God doesn’t answer. What does that say about God? What does that say about you? Are we God because Jesus said in Psalm 82

‘Don’t you know that you are gods?’

Or are we simply human because God said in Isaiah 45:5

‘I am the Lord your God there is no one besides me.’

I wanted someone who was past that phase of being popular on social media. Who was not driven by likes and comments. Who realized that social media does not define his worth or mine.

But also realize that there’s much power in social media. I’m a blogger, and for the longest time, I got paid that way.
Someone that understood the line between social media and reality.

Yes, I look good in pictures. Anyone can take a picture of themselves on the day they look good.

But what about when I wake up in the morning with messy hair and stink breath?
What if I get pregnant and get fatter after the baby is born?
What if I wake up in the morning hating myself?

Would he still see the beauty in me and remind myself when I can’t remember who I am? Or was it all about my looks and my body?

I didn’t care about what the person would wear, but if he happens to wear expensive clothes, does that define him?

Does money, cars, iPhones define him? And if we couldn’t afford it anymore? Would he still have the confidence in knowing I love him just the same?

I was looking for a person I could build a life with. And those were questions I asked myself.

Who am I? Am I willing to love him the same and be that person for that man?

And of course, stuff like loyalty, staying when it’s easier to leave, etc.

So, those were the things I was looking for in a husband. And I held myself to that standard, can I be that type of woman?

Many people don’t know Marcel pursued me for 5months. And many days I didn’t respond.

People told him she is playing with your emotions, give up.

But he knew he wanted me and he never stopped pursuing me. Even after we started a relationship, the first time he kissed me was after he asked me to marry me.

He showed me there is more to me than the body and physical beauty. Our conversations lasted for hours and our laughter for days.

So, when he asked to marry me, I said yes. Not because he is white or Europen.

His blue eyes, dark blond hair and Dutch language are mind-blowingly- orgasmic fricken awesome, but there’s so much more to my husband than I could ever tell on any social media or to anyone.

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If you missed part one, click here

Instagram model pants #ootd #haul

Do fashion gods exist? Cause someone is helping me out.

I saw these pants on Instagram.

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How lovely is it? I thought to myself ‘this must be really expensive/ hard to get’.

I took a screenshot (like I do with so many outfits) and looked at it many times a day. I knew in my heart I was not going to get it since I’m in South Africa. But still, it was nice to look at.

Three days later, I walk past a store, I turned my head and there it was- the exact same dusty pink pants.

I was in complete shock. I went into the store, straight to the pants.
Was it my size? Yes.
Was it my prize? …YES
It was $16,75

And that’s how you come to see me wear these ‘Instagram model pants’

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It’s supposed to be winter in South Africa. I’m still here for a month and a few days. A coat would be nice, but what color? As usual, I saw a Burgundy coat on Pinterest, that I fell in love with.
I took a screenshot, kept staring at it on my phone.

And sure enough, at the same store, I saw the exact coat. They had my size and it was $23,92

Here is how it looks:

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MY REVIEW: Since the clothes are cheaper, of course, it is not made out of the same quality fabric that I saw some models on Instagram are wearing.

However, the quality of the pants and the coat are very good.

The pants are made out of 65% cotton and 35%polyester.
The brand is: Mirasol style

The coat is made out of faux suede.
The brand name: New feeling

I bought these clothes a store called ‘Gaap’. They do not have an online store.

However, I went online to search for it.

-If you are South African, click here for the pants. R280 I’ve bought at Poshclothing before and it’s quality stuff.

-UK, click here From Missguided 45pounds

-US, ( I couldn’t find any for the US, perhaps if you find a pair, let me know so I can update the post)

Happy living!

 

Instagram needs normal pictures too

Just a normal picture of me. Like many other pictures I have of myself, that gets lost on my camera roll. Never to be seen again.

But I like this picture.

Why?

I don’t know.

I think cause it’s a normal picture of me. I don’t expect any compliments. I know there’s no Instagram filter. No crazy makeup.  Just a moment freezed in a busy lifetime.

Instagram needs normal pictures too.

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Lies we tell on our resumes

As motivation on my resume, I always include ‘I work hard and I persist.’

I often times ask myself, do I really?

In my mind, I imagine someone who works hard and persist as a world-class athlete. A Caster Semenya.

Or someone that climbs Mount Everest.

They work hard. Often many people see it and praise them for it. They have something to admire.

What do I have to admire?

I know I work hard and persists. But when I’m asked to write about it, I feel like I’m lying on my resume.

My subconscious tells me: You finished school, you wrote 4 books, you are enough. But then I remind my subconscious of all my failures. because sometimes we see so much failure that the small success doesn’t take much space up in our brain. We compare our lows to other peoples highlights.

Tonight I got the answer. I agree that I’m enough.

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Working hard and persisting is also for us ‘normal’ people. With everyday life obstacles, persisting in quiet times when no one sees. No news broadcast of our heroic day. No Mount Everest picture on Facebook.

Working hard and persisting can occurs in small things.

For me, one of the times, it occurred when I applied to university. As a South African student, applying to a Dutch university, took effort.

Acquiring all the documents, scanning it, uploading it, waiting for the reply.

It seems easy enough. No hard work or persistence. Not quite right. It’s been 10years since I left school, so it’s obvious that some things have changed, and some documents I have lost.

I emailed the government, the education system, everyone with an email address. I’ve had telephone calls and ‘please wait’ repeated to me a dozen times. Just to be re-directed to a new number.

‘Good day, I’m inquiring if it’s possible to get these documents after 10 years?’

‘Yes, but it takes 8weeks and you have to donate a liver and a heart in order to get it.

The universe came through and I had all the necessary documents authorized by the proper authorities.

Time to scan.

My scanner broke, I was broke. The deadline is getting closer. Finally, I got my salary and went to scan the documents.

Time to upload.

My wifi always works. But on the day I need it the most, it failed me. Murphey’s law.

Not a problem, my friend has wifi. I get there and my computer decided it doesn’t want to charge.

I end up using my friend’s computer. My husband, that’s in The Netherlands, uploaded half of the documents that I’ve sent to him via Whatsapp because my wifi on the phone didn’t want to work.

All of this seems like it should’ve taken a day, but I’ve learned in life, things that are supposed to take a few minutes, can end up taking a month.

Last week a friend of mine asked me to help her with her resume.

I said: ‘Yes there’s an app for that. It takes about 5 minutes’.

It took me three hours.

The app kept closing every time before I was almost done. I started over 6 times. Then switch over to typing it on the laptop. Of course, the laptop went off and didn’t want to start again.

At this point, you probably wondering if my laptop has issues. It doesn’t. It works perfectly well when I watch a random youtube video, but the moment I need it to work, it acts up.

I managed to get the laptop on and retyped the resume. My friend was getting impatient.

“Chantal, you said it will take 5 minutes. I have to be back before my kids come back from school.’

I could feel the tension in the room.

…And then it was done! Just to send it to her email. I’ve sent it 3 times and she didn’t receive it.

At the time I felt like a failure. My cheeks and ears were red. What was happening?

She let me know the following day she received it.

Thinking back, I consider it a success. I worked hard on it and persisted.

These are small occurrences in my daily life. I know I’m not a suffering refugee.

I can tell you about the time I applied for my residency permit for The Netherlands, but I think you know how it went.

Bottom line: In our everyday life we work hard and persist, that failed fries that was supposed to be crispy, the failed Pinterest DIY.

But you make food again and try Pinterest diy’s again.

So, the next time you write a motivational letter or update your resume, feel free to write ‘I work hard and persists.’

When they ask you in the interview why you consider yourself a person that works hard and persists, mention a day in your life you thought you’d never live through, and there you are sitting in front of them.

Sometimes surviving a day, shows you work hard. Continuing doing it all over the next day, shows you persist.

PS: Guess what happened when I tried to upload this post up the first 6 times 😉

But if you’re reading this, it means uploading the blog post was a success!

 

 

My thoughts & Wykeham Lodge review

Most of the places in Worcester have great accommodation, but the workers are not trained.

So far I’ve visited Zonneweelde, Wykeham lodge, Cumberland Hotel, Linga Longa, Van der Westhuizen guesthouse and Merwida Manor and only two of the places had good customer service, although their accommodation was really good.

I’m left to wonder, are they hiring untrained people so that they can pay them less? Businesses make decent money with their accommodation, why not send their workers on a training course, to know how to work with the guest.

The workers don’t answer the phone properly, they don’t know how to converse with the guest and they are unfriendly.

So, when you visit a place, would bad service stop you from going there again, although they have good accommodation? Would you rather go to a different place with good service and not so great accommodation?

I’m reviewing Wykeham lodge today.

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Wykeham guesthouse had okay service. The manager was friendly and helpful with the wifi password.

The room wasn’t the best, I’d give it a 3 out of 5. But the service was okay. Better than the rest of the places.

ROOM
It came with a double bed
Kettle, tea, coffee, and sugar.
Free wifi
Tv with m-net channels.
A shower, and a toilet.
Garden-side with balcony

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All for the price of $41,83/ 34.37euro/ R520
Is this a reasonable price for South Africa and what they are offering? How much do you pay for a similar room in your country?

Extra services available for a fee.
– Secure off street parking
– Dinner on request
– Honesty bar
– Laundry service

DISCOUNT CODE:

Get 10% off when you use this code: https://www.booking.com/s/34_6/md0ege38

You can get 10% of on any accommodation you book world wide through bookings.com

Wykeham Lodge Information:

They say free breakfast but I did not receive any breakfast.

Bookings and Enquiries

WYKEHAM LODGE – The guesthouse

168, Church Street
6850 Worcester, South Africa

E-Mail: wykehamlodge@telkomsa.net
Phone: +27 (0)23 347 3467
Fax: +27 (0)23 347 6776

Our Accommodation rates
(including a full English breakfast)

From R360 per person sharing
From R520 for a single person 

 

Here is some video footage of my room.

If you like guesthouse and hotel reviews, stay tuned cause I have a lot more coming.

Travelling again- Zonneweelde Guesthouse review

 Many people say ‘I’ve wanted to travel but never get to’.
Me on the other hand, hate traveling.
It makes me anxious.
Since my life had taken a different path and I travel often, the best way for me to look forward to traveling is changing into my sleeping robe and experiencing the guesthouses.
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I visit many guesthouses and hotels, so it seems fit for me to review them.

This week I’ll be posting 5 reviews on 5 guesthouses.

In South Africa, Zonneweelde Guesthouse has become my favorite guesthouse. I’ve done a review on one of their rooms already, but today I want to show you my favorite room in the guesthouse.

If you are a traveler or just love to see what’s out there, you will like this post. Mostly because it’s a luxury room that’s ‘normal people’ affordable. If you are thinking about going or traveling to any other destination, at the end of the post I’ve left a 10% discount code!

In my previous review on Zonneweelde, I’ve given information about safety, the culture of the town, etc.

Today I’ll go more into detail about the first things travelers want to know about: Are the mattresses good? How big is the wardrobe? Do they have a bath or shower? Is there free parking? Etc. And I have video footage!

ZONNEWEELDE GUESTHOUSE:

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Zonneveld is a guesthouse situated in Worcester, Western Cape, South Africa. It is situated in town, close to all the local food stores, clothing stores, banks, and entertainment.

ROOM:

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I like this room the best because it’s spacious and private.

When I arrived there, I took a refreshing shower, put on a robe, dried my hair, got into bed and watched a good movie on the tv. It gave me a luxurious feel, a feeling of peace and rest.

Another surprise was, the pictures don’t show how big the room really is, so it was a pleasant surprise when I arrived.

  • It has a king-sized bed with a great mattress.
  • The room comes with a mini-fridge, microwave, and a kettle. An iron is available on request.
  • Free unlimited wifi is available
  • A two-point plug is available.
  • It has a flat screen tv with selected DSTV channels. (South African cable)
  • It has an air-con, which I needed for the summer’s heat.
  • The room is equipped with two beautiful chairs that looks like it came from the Victorian age.
  • It has a big wardrobe and it has plenty of mirrors.
  • Linens and towels are provided.
  • Hair dryer is provided.
  • Coffee, tea,cups and teaspoons are provided
  • Daily cleaning of room for free

BATHROOM

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I like the bathroom sink the most. It’s plain white and beautiful. It has a shower (hot & cold water) and a toilet. The bathroom is spacious.

(This bathroom is good, but it’s not my favorite bathroom in the guesthouse. The room next to it (the double room) has, in my opinion, the best bathroom. But that room is smaller, so that’s why this is my favorite room at Zonneweelde guesthouse.

BALCONY:

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I love this room because the balcony is huge! You share the bacony with the next room, but every time I’ve been there, I’ve had the balcony to myself.
It has plenty of couches and a coffee table. The view from the balcony is the garden and the pool.

POOL & GARDEN
The pool at Zonneweelde guesthouse is located in the garden. The pool is small. It has pool chairs underneath the shade of the trees. And the garden has different flowers and plants.

PARKING SPACE:

Zonneweelde guesthouse doesn’t have garages, but they do have parking space inside the yard. I’ve never left my car there, since I don’t travel by car, but I’ve asked other guest if their cars were safe and they’ve said yes. I’ve asked one worker if they’ve ever had problems with car safety and she said no.

THE OWNERS & THE WORKERS:
The owners of Zonneweelde lives at the back of the guesthouse. I’ve only met the husband (I forgot his name) and he was very friendly and helpful. One of his children works at the guesthouse and she is also friendly. They have two cute dogs.

The workers are very friendly and helpful. Sometimes I’ve arrived at Zonneweelde without booking beforehand and they’ve helped me with no stress at all.

THE FOOD:
I was served a British breakfast (check out the video below) plus a variety of cereal, coffee, tea, and juice was available. The breakfast is 4,70 euro/ $5,79/ R70

DISCOUNT CODE:
If you decide to go, tell the owner I said hello! Also, if you book through bookings.com you can save 10% on your accommodation. Not just to Zonneweelde but to any place you book through bookings.com

Here’s the code: https://www.booking.com/s/34_6/md0ege38

ZONNEWEELDE GUESTHOUSE INFORMATION:
Address: 127 Church St, Worcester, 6850
Phone: 023 342 6953
Book here

I’ve sent my husband a quick video over WhatsApp to show him how the room looks since he is in The Netherlands. I decided to post it. I find it’s always better to see pictures and videos. I wasn’t planning on reviewing the room on my blog, so excuse if the video is so short.

I’m going back next week again, to the same room, perhaps I’ll take better footage. Also, if you want to see anything else or have any other questions, please do let me know and I can ask the owner when I’m there again!

PS: Did you enjoy reading this review post?